Is Tarcy Su on the verge of splitting up with her husband of five years?

Although the Mandopop singer often shares snippets of her family life on social media, things may not be as rosy in real life.

Photo: Tarcy Su's Facebook

According to Taiwanese reports, Tarcy's husband Jimmy Sun had confided in friends during a recent drinking session, mentioning that the marriage is not working out.

They've been frequently arguing, and the man has had enough of it. Her stubbornness, he said, didn't help matters.

Tarcy, 48, once shared that she and her hubby had to work through their differences in personalities and values. (Also read: 4 relationship issues you have to tackle before the wedding)

Photo via AsiaOne. 

The pair met each other at a friend's wedding in 2011 and dated for two-and-a-half years. She was said to have gotten along well with Jimmy's daughter from his first marriage.

They tied the knot in Hokkaido in 2014 and had a son in the following year. Since then, Tarcy cut back on work commitments to spend more time with her family. 

Reports suggested that she may have paid too much attention to the kids and neglected Jimmy, which eventually led to disagreements.

When approached by Taiwanese media, her management agency has declined to comment on the breakup rumours.

The singer is best known for hits from the '90s such as Lemon Tree, Ducks, and The Fool.

Also read: TAIWANESE ACTRESS ADY AN HAS GIVEN BIRTH TO A BABY BOY

This article originally appeared in AsiaOne. 

When my fiance and I set out to make our restaurant wedding dream come true, we did not expect to be overwhelmed time and again by the prices involved to make that happen.

Our ideal wedding looked something like this: A western-style sit down dinner with four to six courses, alcohol (30 bottles of wine and 2 barrels of beer), and for up to 160 guests at a restaurant or alternative venue.

We also decided on a budget set at $160 or less per guest. (This was before we received the quotations from the venues.)

Granted, we knew what we were looking for would not be cheap, but at the very least, we were given the impression that prices per table would be in the region of a 4-star hotel banquet, i.e: an average of $150 per guest after taxes, max.

After all, this was what the internet told us.

The common consensus, and often, the affordable alternative to the much critiqued hotel banquet is to have a lunch or dinner reception at a restaurant.

According to this MoneySmart article, the average range quoted for a restaurant wedding ranged between $501 to $1,099. And in this article, the 6-star hotel banquet was derided upon, while stating that having your celebration at the restaurant is “usually wise…and far more relatable to the average proletariat.”

Of course, what my fiance and I failed to realise was that this “average proletariat” cost only applied to a certain category of restaurants – namely more traditional and reliable mid-range Chinese restaurants that are your usual go-tos for meals with extended family gatherings as such.

On the other hand, what we were looking for turned out to be quite an entirely different restaurant wedding category.

When we started emailing our shortlisted venues, the price range for our idea wedding – a four to six-course western-style dinner with alcohol – ended up being in the region of $170 to $200 per guest after taxes – similar to the price range for a 5-star hotel banquet.

This usually does not include the perks that you get with a hotel banquet package.

While some restaurants do provide perks like sound systems, solemnisation set-ups and basic table floral arrangements, other items like bridal suite stays, printed invites, the wedding cake and the champagne tower etc. are not included, and whatever else you’d like to have at your wedding would have to be arranged and paid for separately.

Our thoughts? “No one told us just how much restaurant weddings cost!” 

Or to be exact, how much a more upscale, western restaurant wedding costs.

Us seeing the final figures *with some dramatisation*: 

via GIPHY

We realised that the rising costs of weddings in Singapore appears to be a more general trend, and having your wedding at an alternative venue may also not come cheap. 

Admittedly, we started out in hopes that we could find a venue with a price tag that could be covered by our guests of up to 70%. At that point, we had not yet come to terms of making a substantial loss for our wedding per se.

Yes, we were one of those couples who'd hoped that our guests could help save on our costs. 

Terrible and entitled? Yes. Entirely human and Singaporean? Also yes.

Now, more than half a year into our wedding planning, we have arrived at the mindset that, if we are to go ahead with a wedding at a restaurant, we also need to be ready to make a loss.

We agree that beyond a basic ang bao amount, we should not place too huge an expectation on our guests. Irresponsible financial choices and debt are not what we want stepping into our marriage.

This meant that we had to strike out many of our shortlisted venues and adjust our expectations. I believe many couples have arrived at the same conclusion and made their choices from here.

I guess what I really want to say is, for couples who are considering to have a wedding at an alternative or restaurant venue, don’t expect for all of them to be more affordable than a 4 or 5-star hotel banquet.

If you are not ready to be unable to recoup your losses, my advice is to pick a hotel banquet within your spending power. 

Ultimately, it is about a balance between a venue that give you and your guests a special and meaningful experience, and a budget you can comfortably afford.

See also: 6 GREAT COST-FREE WEDDING IDEAS WE LOVE

The struggle is real. Your mother-in-law is bent on pushing your buttons. Your father-in-law makes demands that border on being ridiculous - to you, anyway. But love them or hate them, you'll need to get along, for the sake of your marriage. Read these tips to get you started.

 Image: imtmphoto/123rf.com

#1 Respect is crucial 

They might be critical of you and openly show it, but that doesn't mean you have to retaliate. Taking the high road might be difficult in these situations but you don't want to validate their reasons for disliking you. By showing respect, it also signals how you want to be treated, and that you are open to finding common ground. Showing respect also means doing so regarding differences in culture and upbringing. 

#2 Put yourself in their shoes

Perhaps they seem nosey or offer unsolicited advice but it could also be that they're insecure and want to remain in their children's lives. Understanding the reason behind their actions also helps you put things in perspective and creates less resentment on your part.

#3 Setting boundaries

That being said, having boundaries is important. For example, it might not feel appropriate to you for your in-laws to appear at your home unannounced, much less request for your home keys. Convey your respect for their feelings, and that you will incorporate their ideas and advice when possible, but also be gentle but firm that you appreciate the need for marital or private family time. 

Photo: Juan Pablo Arenas from Pexels

#4 Don't criticise your in-laws to your spouse

There's a fine line between communicating how you feel about their treatment of you. Your partner will naturally have loyalty to his or her family, and attacking his or her loved ones will inevitably bring tension into your relationship. Instead of "How can he/she say that about me?", consider rephrasing it into something like, "I'm a little uncomfortable with what he said regarding..." or "What your mother said had me confused." (Also read: 6 ways to save your marriage when your mother-in-law hates you)

#5 The only person you can change is you

You've tried everything in the book but your in-laws are still rude, bossy or nosey. You can't control their behaviour but you can control how you react to the situation. You don't have to let their words or actions get to you but allow them to roll off your back. If what he or she is saying doesn't threaten your relationship, it's best to let it slide. 

Also read: 5 TIPS ON DEALING WITH YOUR IN-LAWS DURING THE WEDDING PREP

Image: kzenon/123rf.com

#1 Opposing habits and routines

You might spend plenty of time together but it's not until you actually share a space that you realise your partner leaves their stuff everywhere/is overly neat/blasts loud music every night/doesn't pay their household bills on time. 

While some of them may seem like dealbreakers, they're small habits that can be easily changed don't have to be and in many situations, can be solved with a bit of communication and compromise. Talk to your partner (they might not even know their habits are driving you up the wall!) and work out a solution before you blow up, and everyone's frustrated. 

#2 Time off 

You probably spend most of your time seeing each other but seeing each other every single day can be a big lifestyle swing for some folks. If you need a certain amount of time to yourself, voice it out early on. And vice versa, respect your partner's need for space, too. 

In this instance, absence can and does make the heart grow fonder. Make the effort to schedule your own activities - it can be hanging out with your friends, hitting the gym weekly without your partner, visiting your parents alone or even planning a short getaway with a few of your pals. Your spouse will appreciate the space to himself or with his own friends as well. 

#3 Something new

Settling into a routine and letting the romance seep out of your relationship is way too easy when you’re living under one roof. Instead of just binge-watching drama serials or going for a movie/dinner date every week, make it a point to try something new at least once a month. It can be going rock climbing, or just exploring the various islands and resorts that are a short distance away from Singapore - you’ll be surprised at how experiencing new things together can bring that spark back into your relationship. 

Image: Alena Ozerova/123rf.com

#4 Physical Space

You might be sharing a home but that doesn't mean you should be next to each other all the time. Have a comfy corner all to yourself - it can a spot in the balcony or a couch in the living room where you can do your own thing. See how else you can reduce the stress of living together in a small space. 

#5 Communication

Got beef? Before it even gets to the point where every little thing triggers you, set it straight so the resentment doesn't build up. Some couples swear by settling every argument before going to bed, some prefer to cool down before talking it over. Whichever it is, nip it in the bud before letting it get in the way of damaging your relationship in the long run. Communicate not just what bothers you, but also what makes you happy too. Here are 7 ways to strengthen your marriage as well as 5 communication mistakes that can hurt your relationship.

#6 Having realistic expectations

Sharing your life together doesn't mean it's all fun and laughter - there are times when giving him/her a high-five with a stool might cross your mind. But always keep in mind - your partner should be someone you want to share your life with, and not become your entire life. And will come with his/her own quirks that irritate you to no end. A couple with a strong relationship can dislike each other at times but still remain in love and together. 

See also: 5 WAYS TO COPE WITH YOUR HOMESICKNESS RIGHT AFTER THE WEDDING

How did you meet?

We met at a Christmas party in 2012. It was love at first sight for me; I even wrote a song for Janan. But he took some time to warm up to me [laughs]. We only started dating in 2014 before he proposed to me in 2018. 

What was your proposal like? 

Janan had the ring for about two years before the proposal. It took place on my birthday (because he knew I would not expect something so cliche from him) while we were at his family home at Gold Coast. 

He proposed to me by the jetty while I was feeding bread to the ducks. When he went down on one knee and asked for my hand, I was so stunned, I burst out in tears.

The first few things I remember saying was how I had ugly footwear on (socks and sandals!), and that my hands were still holding the bread so I couldn’t put on the ring! It was quite hilarious. Janan, while laughing, told me that it was okay to put the bread down. 

He even activated his best friend to capture the entire proposal in video with a drone. When I heard the noise of the drone, right after I said yes, I thought a swarm of bees were coming toward us and I was ready to run for my life [laughs].

Ugly footwear and bread in hand aside, it was quite magical because swans appeared as well. Janan was very surprised because they had never seen swans there even though they’ve had the house for ten years.  

Share with us your wedding theme and celebration! 

The wedding was very whimsical and intimate. We wanted the celebration to be extraordinary and quirky; even a little over the top if I may say! The theme and decor were inspired by the Alice in Wonderland-esque ambience of The White Rabbit. 

Both Janan and my mother-in-law are in the advertising trade and their motto for the wedding was that they did not want to do anything that has been done before. She did such an amazing job! 

I think everyone present were very happy and touched that day because they have waited five years for us to tie the knot.

They also knew that we've really been through a lot so they were excited to celebrate us and our union! 

Down the rabbit hole, so to speak! Many of the props were specially designed and customised for the wedding. 

A setting inspired by Alice in Wonderland's garden tea party.

The place settings featured adorable garden motifs in the bright hues of red, blue and green. 

A canopy of foliage and blooms took centre stage for their vows exchange.

The bridal car was a vintage Volkswagon beetle that was covered in a coat of sky blue and floral stickers.

What were some of the highlights? 

Seeing Janan at the aisle waiting for me just felt really surreal.

The whole thing happened so quickly and it was just so overwhelming with my mother walking me down the aisle and the love of my life right in front of me.

I can't even begin to describe because there were just so many emotions inside. 

The walk-in moment to their dinner celebration that was held at Janan's home later in the evening.

Any post-wedding thoughts?

Everything just flowed together so well and although many couples shared that things do go wrong on wedding days, ours was truly quite perfect.

The best part of the entire celebration was seeing how happy everyone was for us! 

Wedding Checklist

Venue

Lunch: The White Rabbit (6473-9965); dinner: Groom’s residence

Hair & makeup

Candy Tiong (www.candytiong.com) and Carolyn Chong

Photography

Samuel of Pixoo (www.pixioo.com) and Brandon of LensofMira (www.lensofmira.myportfolio.com)

Videography

Yun Yun, Melvin and Tommy from Momentold (www.momentold.com)

Flowers

Miiv Flora (www.miivflora.com)

Desserts

Lil’ Sweetpeas (www.facebook.com/Lilsweetpeas)

Jewellery

Gen.K Jewellery (www.genkjewelry.com) and CW Jewels (www.cwjewels.com)

Special Thanks to

Bee Hong and Beverly Tan

See also: AN EFFORTLESSLY CLASSY GREEN, WHITE AND GOLD WEDDING AT AMARA SANCTUARY RESORT SENTOSA

Do you really need to a bridal hair trial? 

While it might add on to your wedding cost, it'll also save you the stress (trust us, we've heard lots of actual day horror stories) of a hairstyle that doesn't work for you on the big day. 

It allows you to have a real-life visualisation of your wedding day appearance and you'll be able to get an expert's opinion on whether your dream Pinterest hairstyle is actually doable on your tresses. Plus, it gives you the chance to know your stylist, especially if you haven't worked with him or her before. 

We tap on award-winning hairstylist Den Ng of Prep Luxe, who has 14 years of experience in the industry and has played hairdresser to names like Andy Serkis, Michael Pena, Tan Kheng Hua and Marvel director Anna Boden, for his tips on what brides should know.

Celebrity hairstylist Den Ng with Andy Serkis. Photo: Instagram/@den_ng/

#1 Bring your bridal and evening gown

Yes, your gown. Many of you might know to bring inspiration pictures, hair accessories, earrings and  your veil, but most importantly, your hairstyle has to work with your gown. "Bringing your gown is the best way to visualise exactly how you'll look like on the big day. It'll also help the hairstylist decide on the best style to suit the neckline, and so on. If you can't, or if your gown is with the tailor for alterations, bring a photo of you in the dress (both the front and the back!). Some brides also schedule their trials at home so it's more convenient," says Den. 

#2 Wear makeup

"It's best if you can schedule your makeup trial on the same day (right before the hair trial) so  you can get what I call 'a total look'. Otherwise, apply a similar makeup look that you're planning to wear on the actual day."

#3 You can wash your hair before the day of the trial

While you may have heard that dirty hair is easier to work with, Den recommends washing your hair the night before (both the trial day and wedding day) to cut down on the grease and grime, especially if your roots are prone to oiliness. Plus, there's the heat and humidity of our tropical climate, too. 

Wash and dry your hair the night before the trial, without applying products.

Also read: 15 PRETTIEST HAIRSTYLES FROM OUR REAL BRIDES!

Photo: Her World Brides Photography: Angela Guo. Styling: Michelle Lee. Hair: Den Ng. Makeup: Beno Lim. Model: Joycelyn Thiang. Venue: Poppy Flora Studio

#4 Brief your hairstylist on your wedding day

Give your hairstylist a rundown of the number of outfit changes, and the itinerary of your day. This helps hi or her come up with the best hairstyles to suit your dresses, and decide if it's easy to transition from a particular hairdo into another.

#5 Book your hair trial earlier in the day

This gives you a few hours to take your 'do out on a spin and test out if it'll hold as you walk around.

Of course, "for hairstyles like old Hollywood waves, don't expect it to last the entire day, especially in our humid weather. And don't run your fingers through it either!"

#6 Schedule your trial at least a couple of months before

It's best to already have nailed your venue, picked your gown(s), and have a rough idea of how your big day will proceed so don't book your trial ahead of everything. On the flip side, don't put it off until it's too late either, since you'll want to have enough time to mull over it, make changes, or decide if you want to look for a new stylist altogether. 

Photo: Her World Brides Photography: Zaphs Zhang. Styling: Michelle Lee. Hair: Den Ng. Makeup: Beno Lim. Model: Keely Lim

#7 Let him or her know if you're planning to colour your hair

Don't surprise your hairstylist on the day of with a striking shade of red or bold highlights. The colour of your mane (these colours are perfect for Asian brides-to-be!) will affect your hairstyle. An ombre or balayage effect, for example, can impact how your final updo looks like. 

Also read: COLOURING YOUR HAIR? 6 THINGS THIS HAIRSTYLIST WANTS BRIDES TO KNOW

#8 Take a bunch of photos

Once you've pinned down a style you're happy with, don't forget to snap photos, and from different angles. You won't be the only bride your hairdresser will have on his or her roster. Make it easier for the both of you and have pictures he or she can reference on the big day.

It was a joyous occasion for Bindi Irwin when her boyfriend of six years, Chandler Powell, put a ring on it last week, but it also made for a 'bittersweet time' for the 21-year-old, as her father wasn't around to "get excited" about their impending nuptials.

 

 

 

 

View this post on Instagram

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

July 24th 2019 ❤️ On my birthday I said ‘yes’ and ‘forever’ to the love of my life. Chandler, close to 6 years ago I fell in love with you and every day since has been a whirlwind of adventure and true happiness. I’m so looking forwarding to spending our forever together as your wife. Here’s to a lifetime of friendship, purpose and unconditional love. — Now let’s get married already!

A post shared by Bindi Irwin (@bindisueirwin) on Jul 24, 2019 at 3:30am PDT

"I do really wish that dad was here to be able to celebrate with us as a family," Bindi told Sunshine Coast Daily in an interview. "I think in some ways he is and his spirit lives on in everything that we do, and I always feel closest to dad here at Australia Zoo."

She said, "It's been really challenging. It's kind of one of the happiest times in my life, but also one of the most challenging. It was genuinely a bittersweet time. In the moment it was so incredibly special, but then at the same time, for me on a personal note, there's ... there's people who I really wish could be here today for this time in my life."

 

 

 

 

View this post on Instagram

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thank you for always teaching me to stand up for what I believe in. I’m incredibly blessed to be your daughter and I love you so much. ❤️

A post shared by Bindi Irwin (@bindisueirwin) on Jun 16, 2019 at 8:59am PDT

"Particularly dad. I wish that he could be here to be getting excited and welcoming Chandler to the family." 

Her father, Steve Irwin, famously known as "The Crocodile Hunter", passed away in 2006, when he was fatally stabbed in the heart by a stingray barb while filming a documentary.

As her tribute to her late father, Bindi hopes to have brother Robert, 15, walk her down the aisle in place of her dad. Her mum, Terri is slated to step in for Steve for the traditional father-daughter dance.

Also read: THESE 10 TOUCHING WAYS TO INCLUDE DAD IN YOUR WEDDING WILL BE THE BEST FATHER'S DAY GIFTS

 

 

 

 

View this post on Instagram

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’m so incredibly proud of you Robert. You inspire us all. Dad is always with us❤️

A post shared by Bindi Irwin (@bindisueirwin) on Jul 4, 2019 at 8:59pm PDT

Robert, 15, recently recreated a photo of his father at the Australia Zoo, both of them feeding the same crocodile. He captioned his tweet, "Dad and me feeding Murray... same place, same croc - two photos 15 years apart."

“I think that for me, it’ll be really important that Robert walks me down the aisle. That’s something that I really want to do,” she shared with ET.

Revealing more about her close bond with Robert, she added, “I’m always so grateful that Robert is there, and he has been such a big part of my life and he’s always stepped up and been the one to give me a hug when I need it and encourage me forward in life. So he will definitely be the one to walk me down the aisle when the time comes, and I think that will make it really special."

And of course, the wedding will be held at The Australia Zoo, where Chandler had also proposed.

Also read: THIS SINGAPORE COUPLE HAD THE DREAMIEST PASTEL PRE-WEDDING SHOOT WITH THEIR TWO CATS

Photo: Anthony Tran on Unsplash

Getting married is something to be excited about, but most people don't realise that there will be other emotions when you're embarking on a new journey with your partner, and setting up a new family unit.

And unless you've been living with your partner or away from your family for an extended period of time before, you'll need some time to get over that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach that you'll be going to a new home (whether at your in-laws' or alone) away from your parents.

#1 Make regular lunch or dinner arrangements with your parents
It's not goodbye forever once you're married. And, fortunately for us Singaporeans, Singapore isn't a big country where even if you move across the island, it'll probably take you about two hours max to get to your parents' place (as opposed to a flight or a long drive). No matter where you're at, it's not difficult to head home to see your parents frequently if you want to. If you're moving overseas after marriage, make plans to fly back once every few months or so.

#2 Stay over during weekends (initially)

If you prefer, you can still have your parents save a room for you at your old house, so you can stay over during the weekends. If you're both living alone, make the arrangements for alternate weekends if your parents are willing.

But also reconsider doing it too often. The more you get used to being away from home, the better you are at coping.

#3 Talk to your husband or friends about it
Don't bottle it up. It may be possible your new husband doesn't know what you're going through, and you don't want him to think you're unhappy with him over something you're unwilling to voice out. Or, you can talk to your married friends who've been there done that, for advice. A heartfelt conversation can work wonders.

See also: 7 COMMUNICATION TIPS THAT WILL STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE

#4 Keep yourself busy

Work aside, indulge in a new hobby or join a fitness class (it's a great way to make new friends and as Elle Woods of Legally Blonde so succinctly put it, "exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy.") Be it dancing, gardening, painting or joining a boxing class, doing something you enjoy will help take the blues away.

Photo: Tina Dawson on Unsplash

#5 Make your new home more homey
Part of the reason why you're feeling this way is probably due to the fact that your new home isn't quite home yet. Try and give it your personal touch with the decor, a new coat of paint or so on. Go on furniture hunting trips (Read: Under $8K: Millennial couples show how they styled their new home on a budget) with your spouse so you'll get excited decorating and making your home uniquely yours.

Bringing from your old home, like your old pillows and blanket, or a favourite scent, will help bring a sense of familiarity and security to your new place as you adjust.

Also read: 7 WAYS NEWLYWEDS CAN KEEP THE HONEYMOON BLISS GOING AFTER THE WEDDING

 #6 Know that it will get better in time

Routine breeds familiarity and once you get used to do doing the same thing over and over in your new life and home, it will in turn make it a safe haven and those feelings of homesickness will subside.

Sending love!

Also read: HOW TO HONOUR YOUR PARENTS AT THE WEDDING

Holiday Inn Singapore Orchard City Centre – 3 & 17 August

Come on down to the hotel’s Merryme Wedding Showcase and be captivated by their enchanting wedding themes along with personalized consultation with their dedicated wedding specialist.

A winner in our Venue Awards 2019, the hotel’s elegant venues, coupled with its exceptional service will make your wedding day a memorable one.

Enjoy exclusive package rates from $838nett for Chinese Weddings and $60nett per person for Malay & Indian Weddings alongside attractive perks & privileges for confirmed weddings at the showcase!

Details:

DATE: 3 & 17 August, Saturday  

TIME: 3 August – Crystal Suite, 1pm to 6pm | 17 August – Jasmine & Oleander Suite, 12pm to 4pm

VENUE: Holiday Inn Singapore Orchard City Centre 

ADMISSION: Complimentary 

For enquiries, please call them at +65 6730 0149 or email them at weddings.hisinorchard@ihg.com.

The Fullerton Hotel Singapore – 17 August

Watch your dream wedding come to life at this award-winning hotel. Happening on 17 August, Saturday, you’ll get to preview the latest trends in wedding themes, and have a taste of the hotel’s international menu of its signature dishes at its grand ballroom.

A suite of exclusive event-day sign-up privileges will be offered, along with lucky draw prizes that includes a stay in their newest addition, The Fullerton Sydney.

Details:

DATE: 17 August, Saturday 

TIME: 11.30am – 5pm

VENUE: The Ballroom, Lower Lobby, The Fullerton Hotel Singapore  

ADMISSION: $68 nett per couple

Register here: https://www.fullertonhotels.com/dream-weddings.html

TungLok – 18 August

You can’t miss out on TungLok’s wedding show this August! Be prepared for an enchanting affair filled with lavish ideas that make for a grand and unforgettable wedding celebration.

From wedding floral displays, to professional photographers who will capture all the precious moments of your special day, and live band entertainment, you have all you need to better prepare for your big day.

Indulge in a luxurious 4-course menu featuring delicacies such as TungLok Premium Cold Platter and Signature Roast Irish Duck, while White Link Bridal Studio puts on a dazzling runway show of their gorgeous gown designs.  

Join them and stand a chance to take home attractive prizes worth up to $2000.

Exclusive perks & privileges:

For 8 to 14 tables:
1) $288nett cash rebate off total bill

For 15 to 19 tables:
1) $688nett cash rebate off total bill
2) Additional one barrel of 20 litres beer OR 12 bottles of house wines

For 20 tables and above:
1) $888nett cash rebate off total bill
2) Additional one barrel of 20 litres beer OR 12 bottles of house wines

WEDDING VENUES:

TungLok Signatures Orchard Rendezvous Hotel | The Central
WINNER OF HER WORLD BRIDES VENUE AWARDS 2019 - Best Wedding Menu Award

TungLok Seafood Orchard Central | The Arena Country Club

LingZhi Vegetarian Restaurant Liat Towers | Novena Square

TungLok Heen Hotel Michael, Resorts World Sentosa

ROM VENUES:

TungLok Signatures Orchard Rendezvous Hotel | The Central | Changi City Point

TungLok Seafood Orchard Central | The Arena Country Club

LingZhi Vegetarian Restaurant Liat Towers | Novena Square

TungLok XiHé Peking Duck The Grandstand | Orchard Central

TungLok Heen Hotel Michael, Resorts World Sentosa

Lao Beijing Novena Square

Dancing Crab The Grandstand | Orchard Central | Vivo City

OUR CATERING ARM:

TungLok Catering

Bellygood Caterer

OUR PREFERRED PARTNERS:

Chijmes Hall and Alcove at Caldwell House

The Star Performing Arts Centre

Gardens By The Bay and others

MAIN SPONSORS
TungLok
Whitelink Bridal Studio

SUPPORTED BY
UOB Cards

VENUE SPONSOR
Chijmes Hall and Alcove at Caldwell House by Watabe Wedding

Details:

DATE: 18 August, Sunday 

TIME: 11.00am – 5pm

VENUE: Chijmes Hall

ADMISSION: $28 nett per couple (UOB Cardmembers) | $38 nett per couple

Mandarin Oriental Singapore – 25 August

Be swept off your feet with Mandarin Oriental Singapore’s luxurious wedding show An Oriental Charm by the Bay on 25 August, Sunday.

Winner of Best Wedding Venue (5 star) and Best Wedding Menu (5 star), the hotel is bound to charm you with its host of elegant wedding themes set in The Oriental Ballroom, and a breathtaking collection of gowns. And of course, you’ll get to sample a plethora of delectable culinary dishes.

Walk away with fantastic savings worth up to SGD 8,800 when you confirm your choice of package on the same day!

For further enquiries, please contact our Wedding Team at +65 6885 3488 or email mosin-weddings@mohg.com.

Details:

DATE: 25 August, Sunday

TIME: 1pm – 5pm

VENUE: The Oriental Ballroom, Level 1

ADMISSION: $38 nett per couple

Register here: https://photos.mandarinoriental.com/is/content/MandarinOriental/singapore-august-wedding-show-registration-form

See also: HER WORLD BRIDES VENUE AWARDS 2019: THE BEST SINGAPORE WEDDING VENUES WE LOVE

Copyright: dolgachov / 123RF Stock Photo

A bridesmaid leads a tough life. Not only do they have to get up at 4am to prepare the gatecrashing games and forfeits, they also have to make sure all ang pows get collected at the wedding banquet and that feuding relatives don’t end up wandering to the same tables.

And then there’s the fact that you need to coordinate the perfect hen party for your soon-to-be-married friend’s last night of freedom. If money were no object, you could hire the Chippendales or, if the bride-to-be prefers a day of pampering and luxury, you could ship everyone off to that fancy beach villa holiday at Bali. But obviously it is, so here’s how to do hen’s night on a budget.
 

Tea party at a cafe

Image: @mercimarcel

If your friend isn’t an alcoholic and wants her hen party to consist of a resplendent brunch, skip the champagne brunches and hotel high tea buffets in favour of an afternoon tea session at a cafe. No matter how much you order from the a la carte menu, you’re likely to spend less than you would at a hotel buffet. (See also 7 cafes to check out for hipster, modern weddings.)

To make the session feel more like a “hen party”, you just have to dress up your reserved tables with balloons, feather boas or whatever your thing is. Some nice cafes that have long tables where you can seat a party of ten include:

• Rider’s Cafe (51 Fairways Drive) – The scenic setting and the presence of horses will make the event a little more special
• Merci Marcel (56 Eng Hoon St) – Enjoy a certain je ne sais quoi at this chic French cafe for a chill and stylish Sunday brunch affair with your girls. 
• Cafe Melba (90 Goodman Road Block N #01-56 Goodman Arts Centre) – Don’t settle for a cafe in a shopping mall. The Goodman Arts Centre is quite idyllic and there’s a nice al fresco area with benches where you can squeeze in groups of up to 6
• PS Cafe (45 Ann Siang Road) – The multi-storey Ann Siang branch has one of the nicest cafe interiors, and you can always head down to Club Street for drinks afterwards

Karaoke

Lots of Singapore hen parties have taken place in KTV lounges. That’s because Asian-style KTV is often less about the singing than it is about getting drunk in a private room. Elsewhere on MoneySmart, we’ve compiled a list of some of the best and cheapest karaoke places in Singapore.

Reserve your room, order some booze, get ready to sing your lungs out and you’re in for a fun night. And then, head for a budget dim sum supper to fill your tummies after emptying your lungs out. 

Staycation

Image: @sentosa_island

Five star hotels in Singapore are some of the world’s most expensive even when the cost is split between five bridesmaids. But a boutique or mid-range hotel can be quite affordable, especially if you get a discount on Agoda or a similar site. Here are some suggestions.

• Novotel Singapore Clarke Quay – This hotel’s main advantage is that it’s within walking distance of Clark Quay and Robertson Quay, so if you’re planning to party, it’s a good choice. Rooms aren’t super fashionable but are decent and comfortable enough for a good night rest after a crazy time on the dance floor. 
• Village Hotel Sentosa– One of the more affordable hotels in Sentosa, this spanking new addition to the state of fun has an expansive infinity pool overlooking the sea. You can also head to Silosa or Tanjong beach for a picnic or an alfresco lunch at one of the many beach clubs. A good option if you want a fun and laid back hen’s weekend. 
• Punggol Ranch Resort – If you’re looking for an unusual experience, there’s Punggol Ranch Resort. You get to ride horses at the Western-style ranch and enjoy a family room.

Spa session in Johor Bahru

Going to a spa is quite a popular hen’s night option, but you’re looking at spending at least $60 for an hour-long massage at a remotely luxurious spa (and by that, I mean you’re not at one of those “tui na” joints) like Healing Touch. For more elaborate and luxe experiences, you’re looking at shelling out over $200 per person.

The solution is to head to JB for a spa session. You can easily hob into a taxi once you cross customs. Spa Manja is just a few minutes away from customs by cab, and you can enjoy a 60 minute massage for less than 100 MYR (33.23 SGD). At prices like these, you can spa your brains out.

Host club

So, the boys have their strip clubs and Thai discos. If the bride-to-be is a party animal who’s expecting something racy on her last night of freedom, well, the good news is it is totally possible to party at Japanese-style host clubs here, and it can cost no more than a night out at a normal club if you’re careful. Basically, ladies sit down at private tables, and pretty boy hosts drink with and entertain them.

The trick to managing your expenses is to avoid hanging flower garlands excessively (as is done at Thai discos) on the hosts. Just like at Thai discos, hanging garlands is not obligatory, so if you’re a thick skinned bunch of bridesmaids you can get away with paying only for your drinks, which should cost no more than they would at any club in Singapore.

Dance club

Image: @marqueesingapore

Good news for the ladies in this department. There are many bars and clubs in Singapore that offers free entry AND drinks to cover your fun night out. Here are a few of the latest ones you can check out with your girls.

• 36– Had fun at the clubs of Gangnam or Hongdae during your trip to Seoul? Now you can have that experience at Singapore's first Korean-themed dance club, 36. Time to knock back on those soju bombs! 
• WAN Singapore – Or, if you're more into a Hong Kong-esque kind of clubbing night scene, then WAN is the place to be at. Best of all? Ladies get in free as long as you register on their guest list beforehand. 
• Marquee Singapore – A Ferris wheel, 3-Storey slides and just about the biggest nightclub in Singapore. Need we say more? It's not the cheapest but it is definitely worth a visit if you haven't been. 

This post appeared first on the MoneySmart blog. MoneySmart.sg is Singapore's leading personal finance portal that helps you to maximize your money. Like us on Facebook to keep up to date with our latest news and articles. Compare and shop for the best deals on Loans, Insurance and Credit Cards on our site now!

See also: 8 unique hen party ideas to try, 5 Singapore spas for a relaxing bridal party experience, and 7 relaxing hen party ideas to consider.

A total of 27,007 marriages were registered last year, 4.3 per cent down from the 28,212 registered in 2017.PHOTO: ST FILE

This article was originally published in The Straits Times. 

Lin Chi-ling has shot down pregnancy talk, but admits that she would like to have twins.

The Taiwan model-actress, 44, who sprang a surprise when she married Japanese singer Akira, 37, in June, told media that she is adjusting well to the demands of her new life.

She is working towards becoming an "irreplaceable good wife", she said on the sidelines of a promotional event in Taipei over the weekend.

Lin said she will spend time in both Taiwan and Japan, with show business commitments taking a back seat as she wants to devote more energy to family and charity efforts in this phase of her life.

Lin, who is worth more than Akira, is reportedly forking out money to help him start business ventures.

Also read: WHO IS TAIWANESE SUPERMODEL LIN CHI-LING'S HUSBAND? 10 THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT EXILE'S AKIRA

On her preference for having twins, she said: "I had been wishing for that my whole life. I'm sure the heavens know it by now."

Still, Lin hedged her bets by expressing yet another wish on Sunday, telling the media that she wants a boy and a girl if she has twins.

This article was originally published in The Straits Times.

Image: Bloc Memoire Photography

Lee Ke Li, 28: 

"It is important to respect opinions from your elders, but we also believe in choosing what your heart leads you to. We had an amazing day of beautiful memories, and were happy and relieved when it was over.

Budget-wise, we made sure to set a realistic one while not skimping on what we truly wanted." 

Claire Lim, 28:

“My biggest tip would be not to sweat over the little things and play to your strengths.

There were clearly things that my husband was better at than me, so always remember to work as a team and everything will work out fine on the big day.”

Image: Joy De Vi

Lyn Kua, 33: 

"Planning wise, it is never too early to plan for your big day. Always ask yourselves if it is a detail someone would remember after the wedding. Spend wisely and avoid making unnecessary purchases or add-ons." 

Munching Teo, 26:

“Trust your friends to run the show for you on the actual day and just enjoy the moment!”

Image: Kompactfaen Photography

Lenice Tan, 26: 

"DIY as much as you can. Your wedding should also have elements that reflect your personalities. We designed our own artwork and invites, and purchased props to personalise the event.

Don’t forget to have a projected budget for all your wedding items prior to spending! That way, you’ll be able to track your expenses." 

Janini Murali Dharan, 26:

“It is really important to know what you want and what your budget is. Once this is set, it is important to try and stick to the budget no matter what.

From there, we prioritised where we wanted to put our money in and what we could save on.”

Image: Nafimages

Rohajirah Rohmadon, 28: 

“Plan early and choose your vendors carefully. We had shortlisted our desired vendors two years before our intended wedding date and that gave us ample time to consider the options available to us.

Most established vendors are usually fully booked as soon as their slots are open for booking, so it best to know what you are gunning for in advance.”

Estelle Goh, 25:

“Always keep an open mind about items that you can reuse! But do set some limits on DIY projects because these might actually incur more costs.

It could cost you less to purchase something that’s affordable (and resell them in future), or to rent something.”

Related: “A LESS COSTLY OPTION CAN BE BETTER!” REALISTIC BUDGET TIPS FROM 10 BRIDES

Image: Third Eye Pictureworks

Joshua Ang, 29:

“For me, if you’re going to have a wedding, make sure it’s done well and make your wife happy, because it’s once in a lifetime –and she’s worth it.

Of course there’d be stuff that you can save on, but personally, I think everything at our wedding turned out well, so it was money well spent!”

Wayne Ong, 33:

“Be patient and understanding towards each other. There are bound to be disagreements so you’ll have to learn to compromise, whether you like it or not.

You should also select your bridal party wisely. You’ll be stressed out and occupied on that day so that’s when your brothers and sisters can step in as extra helping hands – to ensure your actual day celebrations run smoothly.

And of course, be sure to show your appreciation to everyone who helped in your wedding.”

Related: MISHAPS AND ISSUES JUST BEFORE AND DURING YOUR BIG DAY! HOW 9 COUPLES SOLVED THEIRS

Image: Kang Pictures

Vanessa Chiong, 27:

“You don’t need to spend too much money trying to make your wedding a perfect one. We decided to cut down on some of the frills like engaging a vendor for our photo booth.”

Yvonne Khoo, 25:

“Pick a great wedding stylist whose vision you trust and share, as this means that you can give them full rein instead of obsessing over every detail.

Ours took away so much of the planning frenzy and stress for us, especially since we were planning our wedding from a different country.”

Image: Milk and Honey Studio

Kay Shen:

“It’s best to have at least a year to prepare in advance and to inform your friends and family as early as possible. They might have their own plans so you’ll need to block their time ahead.

Also, try to get your guests to RSVP at least two months in advance so you can arrange their accommodation – if you’re having a destination wedding – in order to avoid overbookings or last minute cancellations.

Another important thing is to hire a good wedding photographer! It’s worthwhile in the end.”

See also: 7 FUN AND CASUAL IDEAS FOR A LOW-KEY WEDDING

The grand lobby with new white flooring at the revamped Raffles Hotel. Photo: The Straits Times

If you step into the revamped Raffles Hotel and feel that nothing has changed, its designer, Edmond Bakos, will take it as a compliment.

Speaking to The Straits Times, Bakos said: "The goal was to bring the hotel to the next chapter, not to completely change it."

The hotel reopened its doors today (Aug 1) after a two-year revamp, which saw the 132-year-old grand dame given a fresh coat of paint and new white marble flooring in its interior. The air-conditioning system also underwent an upgrade.

Also read: A CHIC ALL-WHITE WEDDING AT ROYAL CHINA, RAFFLES HOTEL

PHOTO: Raffles Hotel

The last restoration done to the hotel was from 1989 to 1991. 

With well-heeled guests still its target, the hotel now has 115 suites up from 103. A suite at the Raffles Hotel starts at $1,300 a night.

Courtyard suite at the revamped Raffles Hotel. PHOTO: Raffles Hotel

Courtyard suite bathroom. PHOTO: Raffles Hotel

The presidential suite at the revamped Raffles Hotel. PHOTO: The Straits Times

A newly-refurbished Residence suite. PHOTO: Raffles Hotel

Couples looking to get hitched may want to take note — the hotel's former Jubilee Theatre has been transformed into a ballroom, setting the scene for an extravagant affair with cream and gold hues, stunning chandeliers and signature gold Venetian light fixtures against a coffered ceiling, plus motifs inspired by Singapore’s heritage. It can house about 300 guests. Just as splendid is the cosy Palm Ballroom, which impresses with painterly murals, arresting lighting systems and the latest audio-visual technology. Both ballrooms have adjoining air-conditioned foyers. 

The Jubilee Ballroom at Raffles Hotel. PHOTO: The Straits Times

The Jubilee ballroom foyer. PHOTO: Raffles Hotel

Casuarina Suite, a cushy space decked in champagne gold drapery and pastel wall panels, is just right for an intimate party. Otherwise, there’s the East India Room with the Palm Garden, featuring an ornate 6m-high cast iron fountain from the 1890s that will take your solemnisation ceremony back to a bygone era. There’s also the spacious Lawn if you’re looking to pledge your vows in a tranquil outdoor setting.

Perhaps the other most perceivable change would lie in its refreshed lineup of F&B outlets.

Gone are restaurants such as Royal Blue China and The Halia, with new concepts like Yi by celebrity Masterchef Jereme Leung, and BBR by Alain Ducasse taking over.

The former Raffles Grill has also been replaced by La Dame de Pic, opened in partnership with celebrated chef Anne Sophie Pic.

Also read: 7 FRESH IDEAS THAT MAKE YOUR GLAMOROUS WEDDING TABLE SETTING STAND OUT

Interior of La Dame de Pic. PHOTO: La Dame de Pic

Besides Yi, more than 30 retail, dining, and lifestyle offerings are also open at the Raffles Arcade, the hotel's lifestyle belt. Among them is Burger & Lobster, which opened its first outlet at Jewel Changi Airport, as well as co-working space The Great Room.

Good news for those who have missed The Long Bar and its peanut shell-strewn floor. It's back, along with Tiffin Room, The Lobby, Writers Bar, Raffles Courtyard, and Ah Teng's Cafe.

Also read: SINGAPORE COUPLES CAN LOOK FORWARD TO WEDDING CELEBRATIONS AT A NEW RAFFLES HOTEL IN SENTOSA

The newly renovated Tiffin Room. PHOTO: Raffles Hotel

The grand lobby of Raffles Hotel. PHOTO: Raffles Hotel

A wedding lunch starts at $168.80++ per person. A weekday dinner starts at $178.80++ per person,  and a weekend dinner starts at $188.80++ per person. Minimum guest attendance applies. Prices are applicable for 2019 only and subject to change without notice. 

Seating: 200 to 300 (Jubilee Ballroom); 150 to 200 (Palm Ballroom); 80 to 120 (Casuarina Suite); 80 to 120 (East India Room).
Menu: Chinese, Western and personalised.

For more information, visit www.rafflessingapore.com or e-mail: event.singapore@raffles.com.

1 Beach Road, tel: 6412-1323

A version of this story was published on AsiaOne. Additional reporting: Michelle Lee

If you missed us at the Her World Brides Fabulous Weddings showcase from 4 to 7 July 2019, here's what went down.

Held at VivoCity's Central Court, newlyweds got to mingle with various wedding venue representatives and vendors, including bridal salons, a photo booth service, a bridal makeup expert as well as a wedding stylist and calligrapher. 

Nearly-weds who booked a package at the show didn't just get to enjoy exclusive perks and discounts (think cash rebates, complimentary live stations, additional night's stay in the bridal suite, free-flow of beer and more!), they also stood a chance to take part in a Sure-Win Lucky Dip and a Buyer's Grand Draw, with prizes worth a total of $27,000. The first 50 couples to register also walked away with goodie bags worth $80.

Also read: 9 TIPS ON PICKING WEDDING JEWELLERY YOU'LL LOVE

Buyer's Draw prizes

• 2 sets of gem-set jewellery from Goldheart worth a total of $13,734
• A Deluxe Full Ocean View room in AYANA Komodo Resort for two worth $4,000
• Beaute Moisturizing Lotion and Emulsion Sets from SOFINA total worth a total of $4,000
• A one-night weekend staycation package in a Deluxe Room inclusive of breakfast for two at The Capitol Kempinski Hotel, worth a total of $2,096 for two
• $2,000 worth of dining vouchers from Lawry’s The Prime Rib Singapore
• 1 set of fine jewellery from M&B Private Jewelers worth a total of $1,800
• A $1,000 cash prize

WINNERS' LIST

Having spent over 25 years in the industry, Sarah Richardson has done it all, from being a prop stylist and set decorator, to becoming one of the most sought-after designers and television personalities in Canada offering decor and design advice.

Her design-related series include Room Service, Design Inc., Sarah’s House and, most recently, Sarah 101. Off-air, she heads interior design firm Design Inc. In an interview with Home & Decor Singapore, Sarah shares four tips to styling a bedroom.

Mix Things Up

Torn between classical and contemporary, or country and industrial style? Don’t be restricted by a singular look. Instead, have the best of both worlds by incorporating a fair share of elements from two styles, into one space. This way, there are sufficient features to anchor both styles to create a holistic look.

Size Matters

Choose furnishings that are of the right size and scale for the room. You won’t want a bed that’s too large, as that will make the space look cramped. The bedroom furniture should complement one another to create a unified look. (Also read: Creative interior decorating ideas for small homes from two experts)

Right Height 

How tall should your bedside table be? It should be at least as tall as the top of your mattress so you can access items from your bed with ease.

Also read: DESIGNING YOUR DREAM HOME? THESE 8 SINGAPORE INFLUENCERS' STYLISH HOMES WILL INSPIRE YOU

Choosing Colours

“Will you marry me?”

These four little words can send even the most sensible woman into a tizzy, especially when the rocks are as dazzling as some of these beauties. Jewellery, after all, is about emotion. It revs up your heart, reignites memories, and recognises milestones.

Here, we take a look at the signature designs that have stood the test of time and become emblematic of the brands that originally created them.

This spread was originally published in Her World Brides LUXE April 2019